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By Nicola_Red
#495156
Deadly wrote:The Internet isn't real life. It's a sign of weakness if you take negative comments seriously.


Of course it's real life. Just cos you can't see the person insulting you, they're still a real person and they may well still mean the things they've said.
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By Boboff
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Recently I messaged a friend on facebook, after she asked me what we were doing over Easter.

So I replied, " My sister is coming to stay, Easter Egg Hunt"

She Replied " Okay, don't you get on?"

Hence forth we don't have to use the C word we can use Easter Egg Hunt, it is both less offensive and it makes me smile.

JayE, I know you love me lots, cause you said so, but what Chys said was a joke love, if you were offended by it, then I agree with all the other comments, you need to grow up, else you'll meet people like me in real life, who will see you are upset by it, and then keep on doing it until you cry/breakdown/change sexuality/change religion/punch me in the face get arrested then get bum raped by hairy bottomed Bikers called Barry. The choice my friend is yours.

I am sure I told you that when I first became MD of the Fudge packing palace, my nickname was R.A.C.... yes indeed, Rob's a Easter Egg Hunt, I took it as a positive, and a compliment.

Oh, Easter egg hunt doesn't really work, as it should say Rob's an Eater Egg Hunt, and that apostrophe it's not a possessive statement is it, so where should it go?????????????????
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By Chris
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I made the rule to deal with people who join with no purpose other than to troll or argue. Discussions between 'regulars', even those that get heated, were not what I had in mind.

In essence I want this to work under a 'police yourself' scheme. If someone is a * then they can be called one. If its uncalled for I'm sure people will step in to support them.

I reserve the right to ban you all. That's all*

* I haven't banned anyone for years except spammers.
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By dimtimjim
#495187
Everything which could go wrong with my plans for tomorrow is doing. Humph.

And Chris is right on the self policing of the forum. That said, Bob is a *. :wink:
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By Boboff
#495208
dimtimjim wrote:Everything which could go wrong with my plans for tomorrow is doing. Humph.

And Chris is right on the self policing of the forum. That said, Bob is a *. :wink:



Yes, I thought I already agreed to that summation of my character?

I do have a large Penis, so get * all the time.
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By Nicola_Red
#495219
Woke up at 1am feeling sick and promptly threw up. I have no idea why. It was most unpleasant.
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By The Deadly
#495221
Nicola_Red wrote:Woke up at 1am feeling sick and promptly threw up. I have no idea why. It was most unpleasant.


Did you have bits of carrot in the sick?
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By DevilsDuck
#495238
Nicola_Red wrote:Woke up at 1am feeling sick and promptly threw up. I have no idea why. It was most unpleasant.


Uh oh... You don't think you could...






have eaten something that you didn't agree with
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By Nicola_Red
#495246
DevilsDuck wrote:
Nicola_Red wrote:Woke up at 1am feeling sick and promptly threw up. I have no idea why. It was most unpleasant.


Uh oh... You don't think you could...

have eaten something that you didn't agree with


I suspect so, yes. (And yes I do know what else you're suggesting and that would be something of a miracle!)
By bmstinton93
#495248
So my parents have told me that me and Katie can't live together and they won't guarantor anything if I do. They reckon I shouldn't be looking for places to live (even though I have nowhere in 9 weeks) as it's apparently taking my eye off revision which I have been doing non stop for about the past month. And now they expect Katie to get the day off work on Sunday so they can come to Bristol and meet her, even though she now doesn't wanna meet them cause she heard the way they spoke to me down the phone yesterday. Fun :/
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By The Deadly
#495256
But they would have had more time to come to terms with what has happened and in that time you could have gone some way to prove to them you are serious about this girl and that you are responsible enough to look after your own property.
Are they essentially saying "it's your mess, you deal with it"?
By bmstinton93
#495257
They're essentially saying it's never gonna work and we won't let you live with her.

I sound really petty saying this but it just really hit a nerve with me yesterday because it made me realise that throughout my whole life they've always doubted me. I remember them telling me during my A Levels that I need to get close to Sainsburys as I might need them.
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By The Deadly
#495258
Well the only thing you can do is prove them wrong and then rub their faces in it. If/when you prove them wrong I'm sure they will be delighted.
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By Nicola_Red
#495259
Meeting parents is always difficult. Even at my old age, meeting Mr Red's mum was difficult for me. Partly cos of the lies his ex told her about me, partly cos I know she liked his ex and I was worried she'd prefer her to me, partly cos of my appearance (my own mum said "I hope he's warned her") - but more than anything, she's just very different to my own parents (my mum hugged and kissed Mr Red the first time they met, whereas his mum clearly wouldn't do anything of the sort).

Like I was with Mr Red's mum, Katie is probably feeling like she's off on the wrong foot with your parents, in your case cos of the fact you didn't tell them about the baby - but what's done is done now. It is important they meet if they're ever gonna trust and have faith in your relationship. Of course you don't need them to do that strictly speaking, but at your age it's pretty important that they do - and not just cos of things like guaranteeing a flat.
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By chrysostom
#495261
Well, I was in this situation when I moved to Wycombe for my Master's. Even though we'd been together for 4 years I'd kept her separate from my parents and they'd only met 2 or 3 times - my parents thought that I should concentrate on my studies before embroiling myself with a relationship. They didn't visit my place in Wycombe once.

When the time came, I basically forced my parents into being my individual guarantors (not for both me and my ex), even though they thought it wouldn't be a good situation to go straight into and that it would interfere with my degree.

Turns out that it did interfere with my degree, and it didn't work out. They ended up paying the lease cancellation fees for me after 6.5 months, and I moved home.

The second time I moved in with a partner, I took a very different approach. I'd lived with my friend for a year, and I'd introduced Hannah to my parents after around a year (still a very long time, I know) and slowly integrated the 2 sides of my life and the difference between how my parents have acted towards her is massive. They helped me look for places, they offered to be the guarantors and they want us to visit lots.

I know all parents are different, but I thought they hated me - but looking back on it, they were right about a lot of things and they were trying to do what is best for me.
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By Nicola_Red
#495262
Yeah, I've made a big effort to integrate Mr Red into my family right from the start - he's even met my sister-in-law's mum, stepdad and grandma! I knew straightaway that he and I would be serious, and I sensed that not having much family of his own (just a mum and a couple of aunts really) he would like being a part of a big, close family like mine. And so far he does :)
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