[Yudster]

Gives me the irrits.

Did you just make a word up?

I may have done - well, I may have used a made up word. I certainly didn't make it up, its a common one around these parts.

[dimtimjim]

Gives me the irrits.

Did you just make a word up?

I may have done

No, you didn't... Bit 'urban' for you though. Fo shizzle.

[Yudster]

Well I don't know about "urban" - the area where I am used to hearing it is about as rural as you can get.

[The Deadly]

There was a pretty brutal murder literally 100 yards from my flat in the early hours of this morning. Poor woman got her throat cut in an underpass. Nothing like that ever happens here so it's a real shocker.

[Yudster]

Its horrible when something like that happens so close to home. Nasty.

Annoying me is having to be at work this week - I have SO much to do elsewhere...

[dimtimjim]

Annoying me is being back at work. Me n Mrs DTJ were at a fancy hotel for a Spa weekend this weekend (her burfday pressy) so I am feeling quite refreshed and pampered, shame to be back to the norm. And what a weekend for it too, loads of ladies all waltzing around in bath robes enjoying a pimms in the sun. Had to leave 'er at the hotel and come to work. Humph.

[dimtimjim]

Got to work, noticed I seem to have lost a button off me shirt - rocking the 'bit-o-belly' look today (eh, ladies! )... Have text someone to see if needle n thread can be brought in for a repair job with the spare one.



Assuming I can find a woman to do it for me.... (learning from DV)



Sorry, but its not sexist until after 08:00.

[Nicola_Red]

Ha! You could ask me, but I'd probably do a worse job than you. Can't sew to save my life. No co-ordination.

[dimtimjim]

Tis all done, and did it myself - with no loss of blood.

[Nicola_Red]

Logged into my flatmate's paypal account (with his permission, he knows I know his password) and found a subscription to eHarmony. I wasn't so much annoyed as just taken aback...I think I've come to believe that he and I will be together forever in some form, and even though I do know that isn't necessarily true, it kinda freaks me out to think about it.

[Yudster]

Annoying me is being too much of a coward to post the reply I had prepared to the post above.

[DevilsDuck]

Awww yuds... Don't be a coward... Be a cow, it's much more fun!

[Nicola_Red]

Annoying me is being too much of a coward to post the reply I had prepared to the post above.

Oh c'mon Yuds, why? is it that you think your opinion would offend or upset me?

[Yudster]

I know damn well it would.

[dimtimjim]

If I could add my thoughts... I read Nic's post and was unsure what the problem was..... eHarmony? Whats wrong with organising singing lessons....?

(or have I not got the right idea of eHarmony?)

[chrysostom]

Slightly off topic, but I'm genuinely annoyed by my inability to ignore women's bodies (if they're appealing to me). Not in a 'sexual assault' type way, there's nothing else behind it other than the urge to look. but my eye constantly gets drawn to various features of a majority of women I see.

It's damn distracting.

[dimtimjim]

Andy, that just prooves you have blood in your veins - nothing more. We are designed to find lady curves appealing, and over the years, trends have developed such that it is deemed acceptable for women to openly display up to 90% of their body, in public. Hence the eye-distraction.

The simple fact is, women are FAR worse then men for 'checking out the opposite sex' when a chance meeting occurs. So, next time you sneak a cleavage peek (which I hasten to add is usually not hidden), don't feel bad - she has for 100% certain checked out your hair/jaw line/stomach/package/shoes....

[chrysostom]

It's not so much guilt - it's just that I don't really have any control over it. And it takes up a LOT of my day.

[Nicola_Red]

I'm exactly the same - I have to stop myself staring at cleavage or legs. The only difference is that women aren't usually suspected of perving at other women, so I kinda get a free pass. I don't do it with men though - I might look at their face or outfit, but not their actual body.

[dimtimjim]

I don't really have any control over it.

I know! Can be so frustrating at times.... But, nature working as its meant to.

[The Deadly]

Am I the only person in the world who gets annoyed by constant Facebook status updates about how much someone loves their boyfriend/girlfriend? I might just be old and miserable but it really gets on my nerves.

[Nicola_Red]

No, I do too. Block them from your news feed - it's the only way.

[Bas]

.... she has for 100% certain checked out your hair/jaw line/stomach/package/shoes....

I'm going to go out on a limb & say that this has probably never happened to me . Not for a right few years anyway.

[R94N]

Am I the only person in the world who gets annoyed by constant Facebook status updates about how much someone loves their boyfriend/girlfriend? I might just be old and miserable but it really gets on my nerves.

That seems really egotistical and big headed (the posting, I mean, not your comment!). If you love them, fine, but why not just tell them?

[chrysostom]

My (now hidden) blog had a post on this:

If facebook is to believed, it's amazing how many couples don't have a means of privately. Interactions such as 'Love you x' may be justified occasionally (loosely at best) as a symbol of reaffirming the status of a partnership, and display to the online community that you want everyone to see that you both have a loving relationship. A bit odd, broadcasting something on a public platform that should be pretty private, and assumed by a majority of your social sphere...but fair enough if it's necessary to invade your partners profile with a personal sentiment (which doesn't mean enough to articulate the point past a single sentence).

I'm not sure how most relationships work, but it must be that a minority of relationships don't involve phones (through texting, or calls), as there are plenty of personal messages between partners sent by wall to wall postings, such as 'what time are you coming over?'. I can't be alone in seeing the futility in this kind of interaction - the issue I hold with it isn't just localised to relationships.

On a social platform the interactions should be something which will facilitate public interest within your social sphere, and in the best cases should also draw interaction.

It seems to me that personal messages from one partner to another are something which you'd feel odd about commenting on (although some people may revel in invading the intimacy between a couple), but also something that you wouldn't want people to comment on (eg. 'Can't wait to see you' > Fiona Bruce likes this, George Smith commented 'me either!'). Daily messages to each other serve no purpose but to prove that as a couple you do interact (make of that what you will).



If it's the kind of thing which people would genuinely have some sort of interest in, perhaps something embarrassing that friends would comment on or an insight to your relationship you'd like to share, then I have no problem with it. But for every person who comments on personal interactions between a couple, there will be 4 who will be invoicing you for a new keyboard as theirs will have had an accident involving vomit.

In relationships that have so much private discourse (again, another assumption I'm making), I can't fathom the wisdom in exposing a proportion of interaction to the public.

Facebook does also have a handy messaging tool, which allows private chat, and link sharing. Try including friends in that message and see what the reaction is.

A bit of research into the topic has unearthed a seedy facebook community. [url="http://www.facebook.com/profiles4couples"]Click here[url] to see the campaign for 'Profiles for couples', a truly astounding concept which a hefty 567 people are supporting. People who are either desperate to convince their partner to be part of something they have no lust to be involved with, or can't see themselves as a single entity anymore. and yet, there's still so much more out there (a great website for this is STFU couples.)

I have to say that nowdays, I message my partner 4/5 times a day with links to articles/pictures etc, but it's on a private platform where only we see whatever we post, be it serious debate or ridiculous overly cutesy stuff. Because we enjoy communicating without the input or recognition of others, however we do post up holiday snaps etc. because they are experiences that we do want to share with our friends. A picture of us on our first date wouldn't go up on FB.