[Zoot]

So the team were talking about their Relationship horror stories today.
I have a similar one to Aled actually...

About 4 years ago I went to New York with a couple of mates, and one night I got chatting to a girl called Rochelle in the hotel bar. We swopped email addresses, and when i got back home i emailed her. Well we carried on talking, first by email, then by MSN, then on the phone. It got to the point where we were chatting on the phone every night, and when we weren't doing that we were on MSN. I think it was safe to say our 'relationship' moved on a bit (Phone sex is great....) so after about 6 months I arranged to fly over to North Carolina and stay with her for a week.
Well the first night was amazing.
So was the second day.
On the third day we went up into the mountains looking for bears. While we were eating our picnic (and with still 4 days of my holiday to go) she told me she didn't think the distance thing would work (which is ironic seeing as we were the closest to each other we had ever been...). Well that night we went for a lovely meal and still held hands etc. The following day she admitted she didn't find me as attractive as she thought. The following 3 days she was as cold as anything, and very irritable. during that time she'd decided another aspect that it would never work was because i wasn't Jewish (why it hadn't crossed her mind in the 6 months before i have no idea...)

Well I've only heard from her once since then, despite her still wanting to be friends.

Ok, i've shown you mine, now you show me yours....

[MK Chris]

You've all heard mine...

[AndyJ]

Not meny relationships - nothing good to tell to be honest!

[wurzel]

Similar to the holiday one...

Went on holiday to Weymouth for a week with my girlfriend (at the time) and my parents. About the 3rd night in (Monday), i gave her some money to go to the bar to get her and me a drink cos it was easier for her to go, and while she was there, some bloke started chatting to her and it looked like they were flirting quite badly. She came back and i asked her what that was all about, and she didnt really have an answer apart from "he tried chatting me up, i said ive got a boyfriend etc", to which i replied "looked like you were enjoying it aswell".

Well it was dropped for then until we got back to the caravan, where i asked her about it again, and same outcome. But se admitted she liked it but that nothing would come of it. The night after, she was barely talking to me, so i asked what was wrong when we got back to the caravan, and she said "i think this week has been a mistake, its over!"

She phoned her parents up to come and pick her up first thing the next day.

16 months and she split up with me smack bang in the middle of a holiday. 2 of my parents friends had come with us, with their daughter, her partner and kids, and granddaughter. Everyone of them said what she did was wrong and that it shouldnt have happened on holiday!

[Zoot]

Similar to the holiday one...

Went on holiday to Weymouth for a week with my girlfriend (at the time) and my parents. About the 3rd night in (Monday), i gave her some money to go to the bar to get her and me a drink cos it was easier for her to go, and while she was there, some bloke started chatting to her and it looked like they were flirting quite badly. She came back and i asked her what that was all about, and she didnt really have an answer apart from "he tried chatting me up, i said ive got a boyfriend etc", to which i replied "looked like you were enjoying it aswell".

Well it was dropped for then until we got back to the caravan, where i asked her about it again, and same outcome. But se admitted she liked it but that nothing would come of it. The night after, she was barely talking to me, so i asked what was wrong when we got back to the caravan, and she said "i think this week has been a mistake, its over!"

She phoned her parents up to come and pick her up first thing the next day.

16 months and she split up with me smack bang in the middle of a holiday. 2 of my parents friends had come with us, with their daughter, her partner and kids, and granddaughter. Everyone of them said what she did was wrong and that it shouldnt have happened on holiday!

Wow, that does indeed suck!

[wurzel]

Similar to the holiday one...

Went on holiday to Weymouth for a week with my girlfriend (at the time) and my parents. About the 3rd night in (Monday), i gave her some money to go to the bar to get her and me a drink cos it was easier for her to go, and while she was there, some bloke started chatting to her and it looked like they were flirting quite badly. She came back and i asked her what that was all about, and she didnt really have an answer apart from "he tried chatting me up, i said ive got a boyfriend etc", to which i replied "looked like you were enjoying it aswell".

Well it was dropped for then until we got back to the caravan, where i asked her about it again, and same outcome. But se admitted she liked it but that nothing would come of it. The night after, she was barely talking to me, so i asked what was wrong when we got back to the caravan, and she said "i think this week has been a mistake, its over!"

She phoned her parents up to come and pick her up first thing the next day.

16 months and she split up with me smack bang in the middle of a holiday. 2 of my parents friends had come with us, with their daughter, her partner and kids, and granddaughter. Everyone of them said what she did was wrong and that it shouldnt have happened on holiday!

Wow, that does indeed suck!

Your telling me. She also works in my local, a job i got for her, and trained her at, after only working there 2 weeks myself!

[AndyJ]

Weymouth is a great place, my Mum owns a flat there and we go there a couple of times a year, i have releatives that live in Weymouth to, they used to own some of the huts on the beech = free candyfloss and ice cream! I would move there tomorrow if i could!

[Yudster]

Really? My overiding impression of Weymouth is that it's populated almost entirely by pensioners, and every other building is a nursing home! Maybe thats the difference between going to place for work or going to a place for a holiday.........

[wurzel]

Really? My overiding impression of Weymouth is that it's populated almost entirely by pensioners, and every other building is a nursing home! Maybe thats the difference between going to place for work or going to a place for a holiday.........

No its not, not during the summer anyway.

[AndyJ]

There are alot of pensioners, but i find thats the case with alot of seaside towns! I have been going there all my life and I really enjoy it when I am there.... We might go for easter weekend....there are some wicked bars which is good

[MK Chris]

I've been to Weymouth for a holiday, not for years though. I don't think it was my favourite UK holiday destination. Tenby was very nice, as (obviously) was Devon and Cornwall.

[AndyJ]

I think i like it more because i have alot of fond memories there with my brother and family all sitting on the beech next to the punch and judy, making my own candyfloss and playing about, they also owned the hut with the trampolines so we used to go on them alot to.... ahhh...those were the days!

[Yudster]

It reminded me of Frinton in Essex, which has a lovely beach and all but is basically a retirement town for wealthy middle class dentists and doctors - and plenty of nursing homes for their ageing parents.

There's an Essex Coast phrase which springs to mind - if you're planning on travelling, remember - it's Harwich for the Continent, Frinton for the incontinent.

[MK Chris]

Boscombe Bay is always very nice for the beach.. a lot of the time the papers tend to go there when they want photos of people rushing to the beach for a heatwave. Nice walkway with reasonably tame squirrels as well, we tend to take a packet of nuts.

[button08]

weymouth is a great place my kids love it as much as me i wish i could move there

[Yudster]

I'll have to go back and rediscover it. I'll go as a tourist though, it seems a lot nicer that way!

[MK Chris]

You have kids??

[Ballbag]

My ex girlfriend was a proper Jekyll and Hyde bint.
The first few months were ok, then I started to realise I didn't like her that much. So I tried to end it peacfully. Unfortunately, it didn't go well, she said that she was stressed with work and that she would try harder and that she was so glad that she had me.

Me, being a sap at the time, decided not to split with her then. A few months later the evil side of her emerged. We'd argue like mad, she'd bitch at me for everything, I'd say "let's split up" but she'd cry and then we'd make up. She could be one minute screaming blue murder at me, and then the next, if one of our friends was about, she'd be as nice as pie as if nothing ever happened. This happened ALL THE TIME. I was shouted at/blamed for everything bad in her life.... she wasn't sleeping well? My fault.... work was getting to her? My fault...... Her family were driving her mad? My fault.

A year later and I was still putting up with this shit. (I was a proper sap back then... too nice for my own good). Because all the arguments and fights were going on behind closed doors, all our friends thought I was the unreasonable one, because I was always grumpy. A year later though I'd had enough, and I decided to finish with her....... my name was mud. Everyone was saying that she didn't deserve to be dumped... "why did you dump her, you get on so well, you're so mean to have done it, you're always so happy together".

Nothing I did to explain what happened behind closed doors would change the opinion of me..... I was the bad one.

Within weeks the shit really started to get weird. She'd phone all the time "I want you back, I want you back, I'm sorry" crying for hours on the phone. Texts every five minutes.
So eventually I started to say "let's not have any contact"... and soon I stopped answering her calls.

A few days later I got a call from her mum "what have you done to her, she's unbearable to live with, can you talk to her please".... a few days later it was her brother. "what have you done to her you ***ing ***.... you'd better sort this out, cos if I ever see you again you'll be sorry you treated her like this"...... a few days later it was her doctor on the phone "can you give me some more details of your break up as it seems to have hit her pretty hard". Then came the last phone call..... a message from her on my mobile that I received one morning when I woke up. "whatever I do tonight, it's not your fault".

I phoned and phoned and got nothing back from her, I was panicking like shit, and shaking like a leaf. I called her mum and to my joy she said "she's out at the moment, she'll be back later... yes I've seen her this morning". The next night we were due to be at a mutual friend's birthday party, and when I got there. There she was, with all our friends, laughing and joking and looking as happy as larry. I was fuming, and ignored her for a while, but eventually pulled her to one side and asked about the message. Her reply? "Oh sorry, yeah I should have sent you another one after... I was just having a moment." She began to get a bit teary and was asking if we could have another crack at it, when one of my mates came up to us and within an instant she was laughing and joking again as if nothing had happened.... playing the game down to a tee.

That night was the last time I saw her, I deleted and barred her number from my phone, and didn't hear from her again. She still hangs around with alot of my friends, and I occasionally get reports like "My god she IS as mental as you made out, sorry we doubted you".

I shall never forgive her for that message........ the bint.

Luckily Mrs B isn't a mentailist.

[button08]

You have kids??

yes i have kids

[Bruvva]

I mentioned this in the "psycho exes" thread before but I'll expand on it this time.

Back in my "just graduated days" I was bored out of my mind in Kidderminster so thought "sod it, I'll put an ad in these pen pal ads in the back of magazines like Sky and Select" - obviously the days before everyone had an internet connection.

I met a few people, had a few drinks, a few trips up and down the country. Largely a good thing and I'm still in contact with a lot of people from it.

But then there was Sylvana.

We write to each other a few times, talk on the phone and eventually she says, "come to visit me in London" so I toddle down, we go out and have a few drinks then go back to hers. Nothing had happened at this point, it was just friends having a night out and I'd decided she really wasn't my type at that point. As soon as we get into her flat, she leaps on me. Now, I wasn't sure what to do as I didn't really fancy her but you know, I was in Edmonton and it was late and had nowhere else to go...

So I lay there and thought of England

*cuts to the next morning*

All hopes of a quick escape were foiled when she says "oh, you have to come and meet my mother, she's only up the road" and then proceeds to tell me her family history which includes an abusive father battering her mum and all manner of unpleasantness. I reluctantly agree to go along, after all, it's free food and I was quite hungry. After a really uncomfortable meal during which I had to put up with her deranged brother constantly talking about anything and everything that entered his head, I escaped as soon as it was polite to do so and high tailed it back to Kidderminster.

A couple of days later, she phones me and says "I got the impression you couldn't get away fast enough.". So I say, "no, you were freaking me out a bit and I'm not sure we should see each other again".

She hangs up.

Then later in the week, my mum says "oh, what did you do to that poor girl, she seems ever so upset". Sylvana had sent a postcard addressed to my mum detailing all the sex, saying I was a bastard and had used her, had given her and STD and how she had fantasised about chopping me up into various bits.

Fun for all involved.

[Zoot]

blimey, I got away quite well all things considered...

I was seeing a girl who, after 2 months admitted to me that she WASN"T on the pill and was actually using me to try for a baby.

I finished with her, then about a year later phoned me out of the blue to tell me she'd got herself pregnant by some married bloke and did i want to be Godfather...

[foot-loose]

The common denominator throughout this thread is... wait for it... "wummin".

Ergo: men > women.

[foot-loose]

You have kids??

yes i have kids

How old are you? I always assumed you were pretty young?

[MK Chris]

I assumed that too.

I was seeing a girl who, after 2 months admitted to me that she WASN"T on the pill and was actually using me to try for a baby.

My mate went out with this girl once who lied about being on the pill, got pregnant and then killed the baby with drugs.

[Yudster]

The common denominator throughout this thread is... wait for it... "wummin".

Ergo: men > women.

Don't know about that, but it certainly seems that men's emotional sanity>women's emotional sanity. I'm glad I am a woman, therefore don't have to deal with us. I prefer men, so much more predictable and easy to train.