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- Fri Jan 27, 2006 4:48 pm
#216205
Sidla, Now this is a long post but please read it. It might help.
I REALLY faniced this girl for ages before I asked her out. I was petrified of asking her!
The thing was, we'd known each other for 12 years before we were a couple. This made things really difficult. We were always friendly but when her best mate left to live elsewhere she started hanging round with us boys much more (down the pub and stuff). I started to really like her, couldn't stop thinking about her etc etc but becuase I'd got to know her so well and we were really good friends it was so hard to ask her because I was scared of ruining the relationship.
Now, I wasn't exactly an expert in the girlfriend situation, in fact I had only had sort of girlfriends when I was much younger so i was really rubbish at reading the signals. people were telling me that she liked me and my good friends knew I liked her too but I just didn'ty want to believe it or do anything about it.
Anyway, one night, out of knowhere and because a female friend almost forced me too I finally plucked up the courage to aske her out (by the cowardly medium of the text message) and guess what?! She said.......no! Becuase we were too good friends and she'd rather not chance ruining things. I was gutted. I felt embarrased and speaking to her next time was almost impossible (As you're imagining it will be if you ask her). In the end she phoned me and we agreed to go for a "friendly" drink to sort things out. It was great, we cleared the air and we became great friends again.
About two months later, whilst at work, I received a text message out of the blue saying "I want to give things a try, I really like you too". I had to text her back and ask if she was joking cos I simply couldn't believe it. She wasn't and we started going out. We're now married, have been for 18 months and are expecting our first baby so, after loads of waffle, the moral of this story is...............................
JUST ASK HER. IT WON'T DO ANY HARM. YOU MAY EVEN BE PLEASENTLY SUPRISED (even if you are knocked back at first).
Go on!
I REALLY faniced this girl for ages before I asked her out. I was petrified of asking her!
The thing was, we'd known each other for 12 years before we were a couple. This made things really difficult. We were always friendly but when her best mate left to live elsewhere she started hanging round with us boys much more (down the pub and stuff). I started to really like her, couldn't stop thinking about her etc etc but becuase I'd got to know her so well and we were really good friends it was so hard to ask her because I was scared of ruining the relationship.
Now, I wasn't exactly an expert in the girlfriend situation, in fact I had only had sort of girlfriends when I was much younger so i was really rubbish at reading the signals. people were telling me that she liked me and my good friends knew I liked her too but I just didn'ty want to believe it or do anything about it.
Anyway, one night, out of knowhere and because a female friend almost forced me too I finally plucked up the courage to aske her out (by the cowardly medium of the text message) and guess what?! She said.......no! Becuase we were too good friends and she'd rather not chance ruining things. I was gutted. I felt embarrased and speaking to her next time was almost impossible (As you're imagining it will be if you ask her). In the end she phoned me and we agreed to go for a "friendly" drink to sort things out. It was great, we cleared the air and we became great friends again.
About two months later, whilst at work, I received a text message out of the blue saying "I want to give things a try, I really like you too". I had to text her back and ask if she was joking cos I simply couldn't believe it. She wasn't and we started going out. We're now married, have been for 18 months and are expecting our first baby so, after loads of waffle, the moral of this story is...............................
JUST ASK HER. IT WON'T DO ANY HARM. YOU MAY EVEN BE PLEASENTLY SUPRISED (even if you are knocked back at first).
Go on!
