[Longview01]

Bit of a personal thing really. Just want peoples advise.

Im 25 and last year my girlfriend of 2 year broke up with me.

I havent really bothered too much with meeting girls or even trying to get into another relationship but im hitting that point now where I want to get myself out there and see about seeing people again.

But ive completely lost my nerve and im not too sure why, I met this girl at a nightclub and we exchanged numbers and have been texting each other non-stop for the last month or so. I even went to meet her to watch the Champions League final (shes a Liverpool fan) and got very mixed signals from her.

Im not too sure where I stand, basically I need help in deciding to actually ask her out for a date and how to do it.

Im hoping you lot can help me out.

Thanks

[Gaspode_The_Wonder_Dog]

Don't ask people on messageboards for help. Its always bad.

Don't thank me.

[S4B]

Doesn't advice have a c in it? I agree with Gassy for a change, this is a bad idea you'll get more hinderance than help

[Gaspode_The_Wonder_Dog]

We don't need another sidders on our hands.

[Longview01]

come on guys, all I want is a little adviCe

[Console]

Doesn't advice have a c in it?

Yes, 'advice' does have a 'c' in it, but 'advise' does not. Anyway...

Im not too sure where I stand, basically I need help in deciding to actually ask her out for a date and how to do it.

Decide to ask her out and then ask is she wants to go to the cinema, or for a drink, or for dinner. Also, I know it's an odd suggestion, but you could try talking to her about it, that always seems to work for me.

[Quincy]

dont aske her for dinner, a drink is fine. if your nor sure if she likes you then it can be a date or you can just say its just a drink, if you see what i mean. what sort of texts have gone on? any that would indicate she wants to be more than friends?

[Vivienne]

Bit of a personal thing really. Just want peoples advise.

Im 25 and last year my girlfriend of 2 year broke up with me.

I havent really bothered too much with meeting girls or even trying to get into another relationship but im hitting that point now where I want to get myself out there and see about seeing people again.

But ive completely lost my nerve and im not too sure why, I met this girl at a nightclub and we exchanged numbers and have been texting each other non-stop for the last month or so. I even went to meet her to watch the Champions League final (shes a Liverpool fan) and got very mixed signals from her.



Im not too sure where I stand, basically I need help in deciding to actually ask her out for a date and how to do it.

Im hoping you lot can help me out.

Thanks

Just plain GO AHEAD and ASK! Females normally like a firm, confident approach, OK! If it doesn't work out, well, it just plain doesn't! Regarding the "mixed signals", I would imagine she's trying not to appear too keen. Females will often do the "psychological games" thing! Trust me! I'm one of them. Good luck!

[kendra k]

don't go out with liverpool fans.

gaspode, i'm disappointed you didn't say that.

[Vivienne]

by the way, Longview, a good place to try for more advice is the main R1 message board (the "one life" section can be really good, where you'll get LOADS of different ideas, advice and points of view). check it out!

[DemonHorse]

or just ask Viv out for an easy yes :p

[Vivienne]

OI! I'm not easy @ all! Far from it! I don't think that's funny, horse.

[Gaspode_The_Wonder_Dog]

don't go out with liverpool fans.

gaspode, i'm disappointed you didn't say that.

I didn't want to upset mr topher. mentalist liverpool fans might be a better description.

[MK Chris]

OI! I'm not easy @ all! Far from it! I don't think that's funny, horse.

I did, actually.

don't go out with liverpool fans.

gaspode, i'm disappointed you didn't say that.

I didn't want to upset mr topher. mentalist liverpool fans might be a better description.

Well put.

[Sidders]

We don't need another sidders on our hands.

I'll second that.

[timp]

back so soon?

[Yudster]

Send her a text - ask her if she'd like to go for Pizza. Going for pizza is a useful mid-point in the progression from "text-buddy" to "girl/boyfriend". One thing though - if you aske her out, don't go to the cinema. No girl wants their first date - or even an early date with a new boyfriend - to be somewhere you can't talk for two and a half hours.

[Zoot]

Send her a text - ask her if she'd like to go for Pizza. Going for pizza is a useful mid-point in the progression from "text-buddy" to "girl/boyfriend". One thing though - if you aske her out, don't go to the cinema. No girl wants their first date - or even an early date with a new boyfriend - to be somewhere you can't talk for two and a half hours.

No, do that when you've been with her for 6 months and just want her to shut up for 2 and a half hours...

I take my Girlfriend every week.

[Ballbag]

Write the following in a text message.

"Dave, how's it going. I need some advice. I've been texting this girl, she's really nice and I want to ask her out for a date, but I don't know how to do it. Any ideas?"

And then "accidently" send it to her phone. This will do a number of things. It will break the ice, send a compliment her way, make you come across as sensitive and innocent and most importantly it will ask her out for a date.

It does however require some form of acting on your behalf when she calls up/ replies with "you've sent me a text meant for Dave".

Give it a go, it's a winner every time.